Ask for — and accept
Accept help whenever offered! If friends ask you what they can do, suggest they prepare meals for you or babysit your older children. Hire someone to clean. Send the little ones to day camp. Nobody will accuse you of being selfish or a bad mother. It's the only way to keep your sanity. (And it will allow you to spend time alone with your new bundle of joy.)
Don't try to be a hero! New moms (myself included) get this crazy notion that they should be able to do it all themselves and be "supermom" right out of the gate! You will only run yourself ragged. Get your rest and accept help. If someone asks if there is anything they can do for you, say yes, and then be specific! "Can you pick up some diapers and wipes for me?" "Can you help me with the vacuuming?" People want to help, and specific requests let them know they are doing things that will really make a difference.
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